You can’t sign up for OkCupid if you get offended easily. I’ve found that it’s more fun than eHarmony (by a long shot) and Match (for the most part), but there have definitely been some men and some conversations that get a big, fat NO faster than DSL could load the page.
I do appreciate the upfront honesty on OkCupid. From the polyamorous, to the crossdressers, to the sugar daddies, to those only looking for one-night-long relationships, to the doms, to men searching for cougars and the myriad other fetishes out there: most men, at least in my experience, haven’t beat around the bush.
I don’t reply to everyone, and as soon as I’m tired of a conversation, I just don’t respond. It’s the equivalent of being in the middle of a conversation at a bar and just walking away – except not nearly as rude. I think.
I don’t “like” a profile if the guy only has angry pictures. Some of them look like they want to kill the camera. Profile pictures, and subsequent pictures on the site, tell me a lot, whether guys want them to or not. One guy had a picture of him in his Halloween costume as his primary profile picture; that would’ve been fine if he hadn’t been dressed as Bob from Fight Club. Until I looked through his profile, I thought he was more voluptuous than most women.
And, just to get this out of the way, body-part pictures are generally frowned upon in my world.
I do like going through the questions guys have answered to see how our answers match up. I’ve run into some profiles that are outstanding, and the pictures are great, and then their answers send me running for the hills.
There are a lot of great guys on OkCupid, and I’m talking to a few of them. Anyone who signs up for this site just has to be smart, picky, and willing to weed through the cilantro (which I find absolutely disgusting) to get to the good stuff.